ABOUT FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
Family Constellations is a powerful modality that supports deep healing and transformation. It is inviting us to shift our perspective from the individual focused seeing and experience, to a holistic, all inclusive worldview. It shows an embodied experiential way from separation to unity, to the timeless truth of our interconnectedness.
Working with the Family Constellations method we address various personal issues that participants bring and explore them looking through a systemic lens acknowledging that each one of us are part of a bigger system - first of all our family and ancestral line.
Almost all of the grief we are feeling is ancestral. -F.Weller
Soul activism - cultivate practices that are rooted in soul.
We do it to empty our heart so that love can flow more freely into the streets, neighbourhoods, communities, water sheds.
Therapeutic process isn't about resolution, it's about spaciousness, it's about making room. - James Hillman
When we hold grief bigger than us. We need to call support from what is bigger than us - ancestors + more than human beings.
Bring into your awareness for healing, for integration.
Every time I hurt, I know the wound is an echo.
So I keep listening to the moment the grief becomes a window
When I can see what I couldn't see before.
-The Nutritionist by Andrea Gibson
like mine, like mine.
You have sweat, black and salty,
like mine, like mine.
You have secrets silently singing
in your blood,
like mine, like mine.
-Ancestors, Fred LaMotte
Trauma healing with Family Constellations
How do we deal with trauma?
1) dissociation 2) numbing 3) freezing
These mechanisms help and they work, but they blunt our capacity of experiencing our aliveness, participation in life.
''It limits the amount of rooms we enter in our soul life. We become strangers, estranged from pieces of our own being.'' - Francs Weller
Losses associated with trauma:
1) loss of security and ease in our bodies
2) loss of faith in stability and predictability of life (ground gets really shaken)
3) loss of sense of agency and potency
4) loss of vitality and joy
There also collective traumas that affect us greatly.
Support return and repair.
OTHER IDEAS
I can't carry this by myself.
When we hold grief bigger than us, we need support bigger than us - ancestors, animate world, the sacred.
We work with deep emotional states.
We are trying to restore the relational matrix.
Lots what we bring is a failure in relationships, failure to see and witness what we experienced. It comes into the room as all unwitnessed material.
Our trauma can feel held, our sorrows can feel witnessed, our wounds can feel tended.
Our task is to keep the heart soft. Keep agile, open and receptive.
We help to fortify each other.
Courage and love and willingness to be vulnerable with what is here.
Space might be able to hold, might be strong enough to bring our sorrows.
Space feels safe. Agreements.
Invites the denied or forgotten aspects of psyche to show up (shamed parts, outcasts...)
to mend what has been torn; to heal what has been neglected.
unlived lives
What is the unlived life that I am carrying in my life?
Become who you were asked to become in this lifetime.
Soul came with some imprint. Something to reveal to the world. Some medicine, some gift.
''The work of the ancestors is to flow their blessings down to our lives.'' - M. Some
Frequently the hoze is kinked so it is our job to unkink that hoze through ritual, through prayer, through finding other ancestors not from my lineage.
When we stop weeping, reciprocity between worlds break down. Bridge between us and ancestors has been dammed up.
We are the same people, deeper than before
Cauldron of changes, blossom of bone
Arc of eternity, hole in the stone.
-Chant attributed to Will Shepardson
RITUAL AND CEREMONY AS A RESOURCE FOR CHANGE
''The Radiant Lives of Animals'' by Linda Hogan
Ceremonies are created in many ways, yet most are designed to bring a person and community into balance;
hozho is the word meaning wholeness and harmony within their place, first within that community, then with the physical environment around them, the spiritual environment, expanding all the way out to the universe.
“There is no time better than the troubled times we find ourselves in for making more soul inthe world. And creative rituals are a deeply human way of touching spirit, making soul andrestoring the hidden unity of life.” — Michael Meade
''Ritual and ceremony marry the mundane to the sacred.''
Robin Wall Kimmerer
“This night will pass, then we have work to do.”–Rumi
Living in the world that is animated, full of soul and you are a participant in that. -F.Weller
Ritual attempts to bring our energy field in alignment with something bigger, something more potent than our own individual lives.
It helps to activate longings and imaginations.
In each place the Earth dreams differently.
Become imaginably present to the earth.
Of letting ourselves be dreamt.
Listen to Earth as it dreams.
Craft rituals (indigenous to where we are, to meet your needs):
to mend what has been torn; to heal what has been neglected.
Idea of Ritual is idea of homecoming: pieces of my soul that have been gone for generations. Begin to feel their absence. Grief pool is deep, generationally deep.
I want to be in spaces where my soul begins to reveal itself more, express itself in a much fuller context.
“There is no time better than the troubled times we find ourselves in for making more soul inthe world. And creative rituals are a deeply human way of touching spirit, making soul andrestoring the hidden unity of life.” — Michael Meade